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My Dear Fellow White Folks,

I’ve received quite a few DM’s from y’all over the last few days, asking for advice on how to be a good ally in the movement to dismantle and destroy white supremacy. I am not an expert. I’m learning new things every single day. I’d say, for beginners, there’s an obvious wealth of online material to read, many documentary films you can watch, and, yes, despite the criticism, social media activism is a valid way to help the cause. From there, donating money/supplies, volunteering, protesting, marching, and, of course, voting for political allies are additional endeavors a good ally can take on.

Here is more advice: if you really want to commit…if you really want to dig your heels in…if you really want to make a change: LISTEN TO BLACK WOMEN.* From co-workers to friends to Facebook pals, I have learned so much from listening to the women of color in my life. If I’ve said it once, I’ll say it again: replace every world leader, diplomat, judge, religious leader and CEO with a Black woman and watch world peace unfold right before your very eyes. Black women keep peace when they can and raise hell when they must. They are compassionate, fair, and brave. They are intelligent and highly intuitive. Without fail, Black women consistently step up to the plate for all of us. All. Of. Us. Hell, don’t take my word for it, here’s statical proof: 94% of Black women voted for Hillary. They saw this shit show coming from miles away, marched right into the voting booths and voted against the Grand Wizard Trumplethinskin that 53% of privileged white women put into the White Bouncey House.

Take Black Congresswoman Maxine Waters, for example. I can’t think of any other member of Congress more brazenly outspoken in their stance against the Marmalade Madman, and she was vocal from day one. We should also be listening to other Black women like Barbara Lee, Ava DuVernay, Michelle Obama, and, yes, even Beyoncé.

Looping back to finding ways to improve my allyship, I’ve also listened to two Black women named Marissa Jenae Johnson and Leslie Mac, two Black Lives Matter activists who have created a tool especially designed to help white folks like you and me become better allies. It’s called The Safety Pin Box and it’s a monthly subscription service that provides literature, videos, tasks and exercises for white people who want to contribute to the fight for Black liberation. And before you ask, yes, it does cost money BUT there are different budget-friendly levels of subscriptions to select from and if you really, truly, desire to be an effective ally, it is money well spent. Besides, proceeds also help financially support these fantastic femme freedom fighters and, at this point, I’m will to bet ALL of my money that it’s going to be Black women* who will up saving us all.

*Except Stacey Dash and Omarosa.