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HISTORIC GAY NEW YORK

Instead of the usual dinner and movie, a recent date offered to give me a tour of historical gay establishments in Manhattan. We met late one chilly Saturday afternoon in Soho. Our first stop was at the Leslie + Lohman Museum of Gay and Lesbian Art (26 Wooster St.)...

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FIGHT ME

Yesterday I wrote a status about my disdain for the sharing of fight videos on Facebook. Some gay dude left this comment: "New age assholism is just another form of snobbery,  that's stereotypical gay B.S.  Always touting what science can't prove like it's fact. And...

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CINCO DE MARIA

I didn't even know Cinco de Mayo existed until I was in my early thirties, living in Atlanta. Maria, the gentle and motherly sous chef of the catering company where I worked, dramatically explained the origin of the holiday to me and insisted that I drink a Pacifico...

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MY DEAR FELLOW WHITE PEOPLE

My Dear Fellow White People, Often times, when discussing racism, a Person of Color may reference White people. Time and time again, I've seen fellow White folks get upset by this. "Not ALL White people, " they exclaim in a huff. "Don't generalize! You should clarify...

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JULY FOURTH IS NOW MOTHER’S DAY

Back in the 80’s, right after the birth of my younger brother, my mom's health declined. She rapidly gained weight and suffered from dilapidating pain. There were countless visits to doctors and specialists. There were many hospital stays and several surgeries. I was...

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MELANIA, THE ENABLER

I CAN'T STAND when someone compliments Melania Trump. I get SO heated. Especially when it's a gay dude praising her for her fashion choices. Fuck her fashion choices! Stop normalizing Melania as some sort of iconic glamour queen. Stop portraying her as some sort of...

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LESSON LOST

I had a more-than-decent childhood. My parents did the best they could. They tirelessly worked long and late hours. When I was a wee tot, my dad filled vending machines in factory break rooms. My mom was a grocery store cashier. They saved money when they could and...

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#45 CAN KISS IT

I'm infuriated. I'm fed up. I've fucking had enough.  Yesterday, #45 pulled our country out of the Paris climate accord, making us one of three counties no longer participating in efforts to conserve our natural resources and protect our planet. Why? Because he...

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THE HEADPIECE

TRUE STORY: One time, a bride I was working with rush-ordered a fabulous head piece that she wanted to wear for her wedding. It was an expensive, elaborate headpiece encrusted with jewels and crystals and all kinds of super fancy shiny shit. She had been looking all...

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EMILY KING & I

I was sprawled out on my ex-boyfriend's sofa the first time I heard Emily King sing. Well, I *thought* he was my boyfriend. Have you ever dated someone and you thought it was one thing and you thought *they* thought it was the same thing, but, really, they were...

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